Writing the story of Xavier tonight made me realise that while my journey to motherhood wasn't as easy as some others people's are... mine is nothing compared to friends I have who have been through so much more.
Through my work with babycenter, I have come to know all kinds on amazing women who want nothing more than motherhood.
There are women who react well to IVF and fall pregnant quickly using the technology available, despite having a long road to even get the the point of IVF. There are others who take several months to fall pregnant, even with the technology. And there are those, that despite the technology, still aren't holding a baby in their arms.
My heart goes out to these women. You are so deserving of a child. You are all warm, kind, caring and loving. Yet I know that hearing this doesn't make your struggle any less. I hope each day that this month will be your month. I share your anger at the government making access to IVF harder and harder, through police checks as well as lowering medicare rebates for treatment.
I admit, sometimes ashamedly, that I don't love every moment of motherhood. Its not always cupcakes and roses, but whenever I think of you I know I am doubly blessed.. not because I have 2 wonderful children, but because I have children as well as having you in my life.
I also have friends who are struggling to conceive their second child. While I complain about how hard 2 kids are at times, I hope that my words never cause you pain. You are wonderful mothers, the fact that people ask when you are having another is testament to that... surely if you were doing a crap job people wouldn't be suggesting you should have more. Besides, my baby is growing up all to fast... and I'm starting to cluck.. so if some of my girls could organise to pop out some babies that would be awesome...
I truly hope that mother natures finally sees fit to bestow beautiful bouncing babes on you all this coming year.
and always remember, Kintara is an AWESOME name... lol
Wordless Wednesday: In 5 days I'm 30
11 years ago
Everyones road and story has to be different if we were all the same how boring would that be! ah to have sex and fall preg wouldnt that be nice for me? but then i wouldnt have my story, it would be the same as everyone elses, you have been there thru all my dramas, seen the ups and downs and it saddens me that it has affected you as well, it doesnt matter what road we take into motherhood, i know we will all get there in the end, esp our special friend over in perth who we all luv to bits. And the 2nd child comments pffft water off a ducks back ;)
ReplyDeleteI don't think I know anyone who enjoys each and every single moment of Motherhood so don't be ashamed to admit the fact, I have my hand up alongside you! :)
ReplyDelete** Wiping Tears** Wow that was just beautifully written Kint I hadnt even read this until only now!!! I have to say that I dont know how i wake up each morning, knowing I still dont have my little bundle after all these years. I guess its the people such as yourself who always remain positive for me you allow me to vent you allow me to be upset and angry and most important you are just there to listen!!!!I thank you for that!!
ReplyDeleteEbz I dont know if your referring to me as that special person in perth lol but i hope your right, I hope i do finally get there some how some way!!!
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